Part 2: Building Self-Confidence

Part 2: Building Self-Confidence

In the previous post, we talked about the signs of low self-confidence.  Today, we are going to go over several different ways that you can increase your self-confidence.

Even though we dream of being perfect and we see other people who appear self-confident and flawless, we must realize that no one can be perfect. We are all human and we all make mistakes all the time.  And I have to say, that is okay.  That is part of human nature.  We are here to experience life.

Do not be fooled!  Even the most confident people have their insecurities and the people who appear extremely self-confident are not perfect. Because no one is!

With age comes maturity and maturity comes from the experiences we go through.  Experience is one of the greatest teachers we have. And when we fail to learn from the experiences we encounter, that only keeps us reliving the same type of conditions over and over again.  Until we are ready to accept our current conditions and resolve to move past the disappointment, we would not be able tostop the cycle of self-defeat.

No matter how we carefully plan our future, things that we wish to grace into ourlives sometimes do not materialize the way we want them to be.  The desires we hold in our heart needs a bitof effort tweaking.  This effort may takean understanding in developing self-confidence to make it a reality.

The truth is even the most confident person that I know did not become the way they are by sheer luck.  Remember that the most successful people do not just happen overnight.  One must experience hardship, know the state of suffering, learn defeat, struggle, and loss before they can truly understand the depth of their worth. That is how character is developed.

What the mind can conceive, man can achieve.

Henry Ford

Know that we can accomplish anything we set our minds to.

I believe that we are born to create and achieve something great as we live our life of purpose.  For some people, their birthright leads to recognition, and for others, success and fame.  However, the capacity to be confident of oneself does not happen by chance.  On the other hand, within ourselves, we have what it takes to soar.  Like with all other blessings of life we are just as capable as the person sitting next to us. The only difference between you and the other is the amount of self-belief they have in themselves.

As we have learned from the previous post, lack of self-confidence stems from our childhood.  At a very young age, we were somehow exposed on feelings of either being humiliated or encouraged.  And based on that, we began to understand and label things as good or bad in life.  Criticisms by people around us determined how well we persisted on what we were able to achieve. 

Improving Self-Confidence

During our childhood, there were times when we missed to respond positively to negative situations.  With the lack of proper guidance, support or poor role models, our sense of success becomes rooted on how well our elders react to the challenges they encountered.

Improving self-confidence is just a matter of acknowledging failures, owning them and then learning from our mistakes. Everyone can improve his or her own self-confidence regardless of how we were in the past.

What always matters is the present moment.  Whatever you do, speak, decide and believe “now” is the only thing you have the control of.  You cannot change the past nor you can know the future.  But what you do NOW will affect tomorrow and the next days.  If you take stock of yourself and believe that you have the capacity to be anything and everything you want to be NOW, you can move towards achieving your dreams and becoming more self-confident.

There are many ways to help you improve your self-confidence.  The key is to have a positive attitude and remember that you can do anything you set your mind to.

For your assignment, in your journal, write about your thoughts on what you learned about yourself while reading this post.

You can still download a free journal page which you can make a print out here

This subject is a series of 12 posts.  Make sure you look for our blog soon where we will be talking more about increasing your self-confidence.

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