Part 3: Building Self-Confidence

Having a great deal of true confidence is so important to share because “with realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.”

This is Part 3 of the 12 series on “Building Self-Confidence” and we will be discussing more on how to increase your self-confidence today.  Are you ready to get on with it?

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Having a great deal of true confidence is so important to share because “with realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.”

Dalai Lama

The Dalai Lama said that and he is right.

The main crutch of confidence lies in the perception of ourselves. And so we have to improve our self-perception.  But the work comes with a better understanding of how well you would accept the experiences you go through in life as IS.   It may be easier said than done but some people are just better at recognizing their abilities and achieving their goals than others.

The truth is only you will know your life and nobody else.  That by itself makes each of us unique.  You may look around and say, how come that person can interact with much confidence and deals with everyone with a good sense of self-assurance.  Where did that come from?

You must know that there is a power within all of us to achieve anything.  Truth be told that as we came into the world, we were also born with a divine birthright – free will.  The problem is that our “free will” may have been restrained by our parents and elders who thought that they always knew better.  With much love, they may have intended to protect you from the heartaches and pain while growing up.  In the process, they may have weakened your capacity to be audacious.

Ways to Increase Your Self-Confidence

Although we cannot change our past, the good news is no matter where we are at this point in our life, we only live in this present moment and which we have total control of.  Therefore, to overcome the lack of confidence it is important not to be too hard on yourself when certain things do not go as well as expected.  Be kind to yourself and do not deprive yourself of enjoying life.  Take a good stock of yourself and refrain from making excuses as to why you cannot reach your goals.

As many of us find ourselves limited by our experiences, that does not mean that we can not learn and grow from those experiences and change our perception of ourselves.  Remember that a belief is just a thought that you keep on thinking.  In other words, you can learn to change the way you think about yourself.  As a start, you can merely change your mindset and think instead of all the positive things you already have in your life.

The manner by which you improve your confidence is achieved only when you dare to do things that are out of your comfort zones.  Staying in that zone though leads to failure in recognizing the simple things that may propel you to achieve that level of confidence you desire.  Therefore, reflect on your small achievements and celebrate them.  When you do, you will find out that there are a lot more of those that you never knew about yourself.

Once you recognize your inner potential, you will find that life has much more to offer than mediocrity.  Believe that we are all gifted with certain talents, skills, and beauty within us along with the power to use or disregard them.  

Important Habits to Develop Everyday

You can build your self-confidence in a multitude of ways.  Activities like developing your verbal skills through writing and public speaking will help increase your sense of self.

You might feel frozen with the fear of public speaking and I had known quite a few.  However, in my experience, taking mini steps in conquering it will help you master fear one step at a time.  Look at the mirror and practice until you see that part of you speaking well to an audience.  As you overcome that challenge, you will discover that your confidence will increase more and more to the point that even mastering it becomes a piece of cake.  This holds true for any type of fear you may have.

When you make up your mind not to succumb insecurity, a world of possibilities will open.  Moreover, once you commit to telling yourself that “I will not give anyone the satisfaction of knowing that I can be intimidated in any way,” you will discover that you got the same power as the person you admire after all.

By being open and recognizing that life holds endless possibilities, you can take control of your life and be a strong and confident person who is capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to.

Your Assignment

In your journal, write about how the false beliefs you have about yourself and then opposite it, write a positive statement or affirmation to cancel the negative thought.  An example of a false belief: “I am always denied of promotion.” An affirmation would be: “I am worthy of every good thing life can offer.”  Keep on saying it until it sinks in.

This new daily habit you have to daily develop will be your starting point in replacing the false beliefs with a positive affirmation.  Soon enough you will begin to see how easy it is to cancel out a negative thought.


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